Hope can be returned. Their moods are so intense that they interfere with everyday life. It's sort of comforting that she said that, because it confirms that I probably finally have the right diagnosis. This blog was extremely helpful for me, and sincerely appreciate it. Sometimes the best thing to do, if you can muster up the strength in all of your frustration and hurt, is to grab us, hug us, and tell us that you love us, care, and are not leaving. I'm constantly dropping things I'm doing or putting myself in awkward situations so I can be there. It was so helpful to me. Talk therapy is the main treatment for BPD. From 1947 to 1965, the state was known as the Romanian People's Republic (Republica Popular Romn, RPR).The country was an Eastern Bloc state and a member of the Warsaw Pact with a dominant role for the . You are likely to see this behavior from someone with BPD and unlikely to see it from someone with NPD. She is also using emotional blackmail, saying if I divorce her it would kill her. Thanks for reminding me that there are people out there who can still sympathise x, I have BPD, i'm from Norway. "People with BPD are like people with third degree burns over 90% of their bodies. I have been reading many different sites and randomly came to your blog tonight. Just let her know I sent you, and she'll be happy to point you in the right direction. Just a thought. It is possible that something that you said or did triggered us. i was wondering if you could answer something for me though. If I continue living how I am, I doubt I'll see the age my mother saw54. I was in denial until 27 years old. Don't write her off. But one didas did my therapist. Main Subjects:Caring for Someone with BPD,Events,Getting Help,Living with BPD,Research,BPD in the Media, Other Subjects: Advocacy, BPD Awareness Week, Couples and Families, Family Connections Course,National BPD Conference, New Member, Sanctuary Meetings, Treatment, Validation, What is BPD. It has resulted in many failed friendships and rejections, one failed relationship, and has damaged my current one (why he has stayed, I don't really know). Copyright 2021 NAMI. He says that the money we spent on therapy and meds has done nothing to help; he doesn't think it's worth it. It makes a difference for us!! BPD & Emotional Distress: Our choices impact our nervous systems, TIRED OF SELF-SABOTAGING?! I am sorry that my borderline personality disorder (BPD) got in the way of our family and us. Thank you so much for your honesty and strength. Thank you so much. There is nothing you can do to fix it. my life is in shamblesi without her, im just ad much a mess worrying about her, who shes with today tomorrow.. I am very glad to hear about the understanding you're experiencing within your family. My heart breaks every day for them. Boredom is often dangerous for us, as it can lead to the feelings of emptiness. Self-harm, threatening or attempting suicide. An curved arrow pointing right. Every single time you bring me back down when I'm fighting through a trembling and breathless panic attack that makes absolutely no sense to you. Currently, my BPD symptoms are worsening. That book made me see that there are good people in the world. In my experience, one of the most effective ways of doing this is to find someone who as gone through the DBT treatment to share some of their experiences with potential or new clients. We havent outgrown this. Huge hugs! . Seventy-five percent of those diagnosed with BPD are women in their child bearing age (Lamont, 2006). Now go for it!! Maybe Debbie wants to add the Ducht version at her list of translations on her website? UPDATE: A video version of this letter, com, plete with narration and text, is now available for viewing and sharing by clicking, https://www.my-borderline-personality-disorder.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/12/healing-from-bpd-e1577900769964.jpg, An Open Letter From Those of Us With Borderline Personality Disorder. I am borderline, but also bipolar, which I take medication for. You don't have to be completely "healed" to pursue your dreams. I guess my point is, Is there hope for a person with BPD that can even realize that something is wrong despite I can see many symptoms?Thank you so much for your guidance. I can tell you, from personal experience, that working on this illness through DBT is worth the fight. document.getElementById( "ak_js_1" ).setAttribute( "value", ( new Date() ).getTime() ); This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Thank you for your kind comment. Leaving university during the recession, where there were no jobs in my chosen field, was a pretty anxious time. So when a parent exhibits BPD symptoms, and the child becomes the target of these behaviors, it impacts who they are and who they will become. If you refuse cookies we will remove all set cookies in our domain. , Oh Debbie, once again, you have kept it real. 1300 554 660. , There are still some professionals who are not up to speed with the treatments that can effectively help those with BPD. ", As an adult who is trying to work past the damage that was done growing up with a BPD mother reading the last part of your response made me cry. You sound like the type of person who deserves as much love and acceptance as you give out x x x Reply freewillg Additional comment actions My will. Oops! And he isn't coming back and it hurts. I've spent time in mental health institutions, in therapy, I have made attempts on my own life and I'm 25 years old - I feel I have been through things that most people don't go through until they are much later on in life. I now am 49 and still have anger issues with myself but no selfharming. I am a male who's spent the last three and a half years dealing with a partner with BPD, do not give up, there are people who love you enough and are strong enough to deal/fight through this with you. It was good to find your site. I was so considerate and walked over again and again. I don't know what to do anymore. being transgendered i was unable to get appropriate medical help because i was told my gender disphoria was "identity disturbance". I feel like he doesn't understand that it's a process it will take a long time. Many times I wanted to give up but he is crying out loud inside that I cannot afford to leave him like that. Love, Linda <3. Find out how you can be a NAMI HelpLine specialist. As a therapist I was aware of not breaking confidentiality, yet wanting to show potential and new clients that change is possible. When I was scared, I ran away and hid. There is a lot of misconception out there about BPD. Listening to your loved one and acknowledging their feelings is one of the best ways to help someone with BPD calm down. My sister has borderline personality disorder and yes, I am separating myself from her because of the years of abuse directed to me and my family. A lover, a friend, a parent or sibling, and a coworker all have the privilege of having a frame of reference to place the borderline in. If you have BPD, you may have had work experiences that upset you, the people who worked with you, or both. After experiencing a lack of support at work, Beth became a champion for workplace mental health. There are other online DBT resources starting up (I will be co-facilitating one of them!) Debbie you have said what we all struggle to say. A certain song, sound, smell, or words can quickly fire off neurological connections that bring us back to a place where we didnt feel safe, and we might respond in the now with a similar reaction (think of military persons who fight in combat a simple backfiring of a car can send them into flashbacks. I loved this!!! . Juliette Virzi. If you had told me 10 yrs ago I would be happily married and eventually become a mother I would have given you the finger and told you to shut the F up. But I would like to point out that I am not (neither are other people with this disorder) hopeless to date. We cant imagine how helpless you must feel to witness this. On the other side of the coin, we may have outburst of anger that can be scary. My wife, whom I believe has undiagnosed BPD, was hospitalized in February for SI. The intensity with which you felt those emotions is probably equivalent to what a person with BPD feels on a regular basis. This was very well thought out and appreciated. Our struggle, particularly as we prepare for our first child, is that this grandparent usually rejects all diagnoses and has not been able to successfully initiate and maintain any treatment regime (medication or therapy). I was 16. Thanks, i'm going to share this with my partner. But that will only happen if others that share in the experience find this and share it with others. This comment has been removed by a blog administrator. Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I know that there are some less-than-helpful sites for Nons, and there are some Nons with some serious issues of their own. Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a significant mental health disorder that is so disruptive it was once thought untreatable. I'm really glad she did; now I can see mistakes that I've made dealing with her, and I know how to be a better and more supportive husband. I don't know if I should or should not point out that she has an illness and thus a proclivity to feeling the way she does, without it being my fault. I am about to go to my brothers wedding and a ton of my family will be there. In the interest of our child, I have put him into therapy. NAMI I can only hope with every breath in my body that she can be 'cured' and live a normal and happy life. For more information, visit our Terms of Service & Privacy Policy page. I read your letter Debbie and most of the post. And it felt like nothing I could ever do to try to improve myself would ever matter to the people I cared for, because of everything that had happened in my past. I am wondering what to do to help her. It helped with a lot of other symptoms. If there is a problem with our website, please contact us here, 2023 Sanctuary Support Group | Designed by, Debbie Corso had BPD and has recovered. Its that extreme. I'm so proud of him that he agreed very graciously to attend and learn these skills. Thank you for sharing it with this forum. "I was just a kid whose family were all alcoholics and heroin addicts. I am about to give birth to my first child and one of my baby's grandparents most likely has Borderline Personality Disorder (previously diagnosed with Paranoid Personality Disorder, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, Depression, and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, but many of us believe BPD is a more comprehensive explanation and DBT type therapy/interactions are the only things that have consistently had a positive impact). Click to enable/disable Google reCaptcha. I was diagnosed at around 21 but had it in my records as 'potential' at 16 because of severe depression, suicidal ideation, and self harm. I just want to add another thank you for writing this. Try to deny it. When I was told what it was, I went home and researched everything I could about it. I am sorry you didn't have a choice. I feel forsaken by both her and the hospital that is supposed to be helping her, but has instead ruined our marriage. Privacy Mental health Carers Helpline. I wish I could get my husband to read this. My surroundings have left me feeling like there is no hope, because no one wants to help. I have been diagnosed with other things except for this. , I'm a 39 yr old wife and mother of a beautiful babygirl of 19 months. I have BPD but don't currently have any medical insurance to be treated. Debbie,This was an amazing letter that you wrote!!! I have strong reasons to beleive my exfiance has BPD. I really appreciate all of the kind, encouraging words you've offered here. The best thing we can do during these times is remind ourselves that this too shall pass and practice DBT skills especially self-soothing things that helps us to feel a little better despite the numbness. It's only a matter of time before DBT is more readily available and accesible. Hi there, I am now in my 2nd month of treatment for BPD, and ,sadly, had all nine of the symptoms. and "WE" your partners love you, even if today, this week, this month, this year, you hate "US"! If you've ever read anything about BPD, you've probably heard of people who are "abusive . and constructing a gulf of silent hostility between us as a way to soothe the slashed open scars of previous . "Snap out of it". The intimacy that non-personality-disordered people enjoy is stressful . We all receive different care and information from professionals and those around us, information has never been so easily accessible. I think these blogs are more educational than a generic medical article about BPD. I wish you peace. All Rights Reserved. I tried to cheer her up and I thought we ended the evening on amiable terms. Thank you for sharing especially during your own struggles. A trigger is something that sets off in our minds a past traumatic event or causes us to have distressing thoughts. Unskilled borderline sufferers can be a lot to handle and some BPD behaviors necessitate separation. I refuse to believe it. Its smart for us to stay busy and distract ourselves when boredom starts to come on. He wanted to change so bad I can see the frustration in his eyes each time he hurt people with his words. 7. BPD: Why Do We Get Triggered By TV, Movies, and Books? She is restarting DBT group in a few weeks. Dear Debbie, i am so glad that i found you letter. The more I read about BPD, the more I have a hunch that the girl I'm in an LDR with has been living with this or at least a similar pattern dissociation. I briefly contemplated not telling my story because of that very fact, but have decided to post it despite that fact. It's common to experience other mental health problems and experiences alongside BPD, which could include: Anxiety and panic attacks Depression Eating problems Dissociative disorders Psychosis or hearing voices Bipolar disorder Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) or complex PTSD Sleep problems We fully respect if you want to refuse cookies but to avoid asking you again and again kindly allow us to store a cookie for that. Australian BPD Foundation. Not what i wanted but almost lost all since of myself. symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder, Impulsivity and Borderline Personality Disorder, Borderline Personality Recovery: What It Can Look Like. Thank you. Any therapist helping a child of a borderline to recover will recommend that they protect themselves from the abuse and their abuser. It felt as though my very real issues were being labelled as some sort of 'mood swing'. where you can take online Dialectical Behavior Therapy Classes from anywhere in the world. First of all I want to commend you on your progress and all the hard work that I am sure you have gone through to get to where you are now, especially having the courage to write this letter. I got new "tools" to manage my feelings and how I feel about my self. Even our perception that abandonment is imminent can cause us to become frantic. Because of all of this pain, we often experience feelings of emptiness. He is aware of his disorder and I saw him fought many times. However, it isn't helpful for their children in the same way. Love, Andrea, You are so welcome, Heather. I am sorry you had to grow up too soon. My email is [email protected]. We are highly emotionally sensitive and have extreme difficulty regulating/modulating our emotions. Due to security reasons we are not able to show or modify cookies from other domains. I NEVER RELAX. I worked as part of a DBT team during the last few years before my retirement. We can learn grounding exercises and apply our skills to help during these episodes, and they may become less frequent as we get better. That is what a fight with a loved one feels like, or how intensely they can feel love for a single person. I have done everything that I know to do for the past 28 years. Yes, YOU can imagine. I am grateful for this letter. BPD, Trauma, and WHY the f*#k did I just say that?! I had promised not to disturb her, but a few minutes later I realized I'd left the book I was reading in the bedroom, so I lightly tapped on the door. Did the self-medicating thing too. My father had the ability, life experience, and the perspective needed to know this blame was unfounded. I am sorry for blaming you. Thank you so much for this letter. Thank you. Yes I can see that that it is a long difficult road. I was petrified of losing you; the intensity of my emotions, the world and the endless possibilities absolutely petrified me. Who would want ME? I would love if you linked to this post from your blog. In addition to learning more about BPD and how to self-care around it, be sure to do things that you enjoy and that soothe you, such as getting out for a walk, seeing a funny movie, eating a good meal, taking a warm bath whatever you like to do to care for yourself and feel comforted. I wish I knew if there was some real possibility to salvage our relationship or even that we will talk again. Borderline personality disorder (BPD), also known as emotionally unstable personality disorder (EUPD), is a serious mental health condition that prevents someone from being able to control. Having empathy, or an understanding of BPD, does very little in terms of helping someone heal from, or protect themselves from, this abuse. I haven't heard from her privately for weeks since. Thank you for expressing so eloquently and non-judgmentally what (I bet) so many with BPD wish they could say to friends and loved ones. My hope is that you will gain new insight into your loved ones condition and grow in compassion and understand for both your loved one AND yourself, as this is not an easy road. After finally being diagnosed with BPD after hospital stays, hurting multiple people, trying med after med and more. This is an extreemly complicated disorder. Initially I thought we just fell out of love and she was unable to deal with that reality (like maybe she needed a larger reason like alcoholism or abuse rather than just drifting apart). Sometimes we even take on the mannerisms of other people (we are one way at work, another at home, another at church), which is part of how weve gotten our nickname of chameleons. Sure, people act differently at home and at work, but you might not recognize us by the way we behave at work versus at home. Share your story, message,poem, quote, photo or video of hope, struggle or recovery. I just want to Scream at the both of them saying how the hell can you both do this!!!!???? I have had to go No Contact because when I do contact him, my addiction to him leaves me suicidal with depression. Between my parents, family, and middle school, I have enough scarring that just won't heal up right. I'll buy them groceries. Open Letter. It wasn't untill this year, despite 15 years of being labelled, i was able to get that changed. People just don't "believe" in it and long-term mental illnesses. Anxiety about relationships, making efforts to avoid being abandoned. I got itchy, restless, looking for distractions to avoid looking at myself, my escalating issues, facing the things I didnt understand and trying to fill the void when you werent there. I would try to calm him down by reminding him how much I love him and that I won't give up on him. Now, multiply that feeling times ten and that is what a person with BPD considers intense emotion. Don't give up on YOU. An open letter from those with BPD Jul 15, 2019 An Open Letter to People who do Not have Borderline Personality Disorder from Those of Us who Do Click here to watch the Video Transcript: Dear Friends, Family Members, Lovers, Ex-lovers, Coworkers, Children, and others of those of us with Borderline Personality Disorder, People with BPD have various triggers that can set their symptoms in motion. Our brains literally disconnect, and our thoughts go somewhere else, as our brains are trying to protect us from additional emotional trauma. I have never sought treatment (aside from counseling) for my BPD, because mostly group therapy is suggested and the last thing I want to do is talk to a bunch of strangers about my problems . I handle things differently thru all the therapy and med changesI still wish it to go away..since now have Bipolar tendencies and PTSD isn't this all pretty much the same stuff and the rollercoaster is ongoing? Your letter really helped us become closer, as it explained some things in a way that I cannot yet. Marsha Linehan, the founder of DBT, recently disclosed that she had BPD!!! I think it's easy to ignore these symptoms because unless the BPD is totally irrational, the symptoms can be blown off as just overly emotional or a hard to deal with personality. We are ordinary people who care for someone with BPD. Just try.Won't work. A normal life can be had. I tried telling them what I KNEW I needed treatment wise, but because it wasn't available to me, they kept telling me I just didn't WANT to get better and wouldn't take the help offered even though I actually did go through all the groups offered, which didn't help because of the other issues I struggled with which they just said was BPDit wasn't. I do love him and I am asking the Lord to help me help him. You're absolutely right that small paragraph is all that any mother with BPD who has damaged her children not only should say but it's the only thing she has any right to say. I truly appreciate what you said. But he has so little insight. She blames our divorce completely on me, taking no responsibility at all. Showing your love and support will make them more willing to see your point of view and help them understand your desire for healthy boundaries. Borderlines do not know how to cope with intimacy - it leaves them feeling engulfed. People with BPD have extreme mood swings, unstable relationships and trouble controlling their emotions. I'd be honored if you shared it with your DBT Group and therapist (and your family!). It was a touch and go for 3 days. They see the behavior as maladaptive, as troubled, as abnormal. Recovery happened through a commitment to DBT. You *can* overcome this disorder! I know people with BPD who were never abused or traumatized, so they can't really say BPD is actually a type of PTSD/trauma-based disorder either. Thanks for giving others hope by being a partner who is interested in learning more about his girlfriend's condition, and please also be sure to use very good self-care and seek support for YOU, too. Borderline personality disorder is a pattern of instability in interpersonal relationships, problems with self-image, intense emotions, and impulsive behavior. I'm looking forward to reading more of your blog. Dave M everything that you wrote is what I'm going through at the moment. This is just another manifestation of BPD. I'd at least come to an understanding of what it is, how it works, what it does before she did. You have come a long way and thank you for helping the rest of us!!! I am not really able to offer guidance, as I am just a peer with the BPD diagnosis, but as I've recommended to another reader, you may want to contact Amanda Smith of Hope for BPD at: (941) 704-4328. I have been inspired by people here and I want to share my experiences with everyone as well! She told me about the family events she's been dealing with lately and we talked a bit through some of those, as well as a source of panic she doesn't seem ready to talk about.. It's all chaos. Thank you so much for your comment and for sharing your own progress. I started to believe that. While she was packing one day I played some Mavericks, southwestern country music I thought she would enjoy because that's where she is from. Unfortunately, many kids of BPD's become BPD themselves because they learn the thought patterns, behaviors, and unstable feelings as a normal way to be. I have to agree with DBTChick. I was petrified of losing you; the intensity of my emotions, the world and the endless possibilities absolutely petrified me. Would you mind if I reposted it on my blog (beautyandtheborderline.wordpress.com)? This is very hard!! My name was stated here originally, but due to the fact that all of my personal rights to this story are irrelevant the moment I post this, I have decided not to give it. Live life to the fullest. He left me nearly 4 weeks ago.It's over now. That is certainly not easy. An Open Letter From those of us with Borderline Personality Disorder: Dear Friends, Family Members, Lovers, Ex-lovers, Coworkers, Children, and others of those of us with Borderline Personality Disorder, You may be frustrated, feeling helpless, and ready to give up. After decades of living with Depression, Anxiety and ADD myself, I knew fully well that what you think is based on the sum of your learning experiences, what you feel is the collection of emotions brought to the surface by what you think.Those are instinctive, knee-jerk reactions which cannot be helped.How you respond to those thoughts and feelings can indeed be helped.Watching my wife deal with BPD, I have seen the improvements through medication, through DBT and even ECT, but I know that it can still be the 800 pound gorilla that comes barrel-assing out of her closet every now and then.And I have all too many of my own moments.Yet for close to forty years she has been my source of safety, of comfort, because I can see her strength, I can feel her love.And I can understand, which is the most important if not only thing I can do to help. Starting therapy can be daunting, and the person needs to make the decision for themselves, but your letter, and other people's experinces here can inspire hope in others, and help them through difficult times. I have BPD and I'm currently in grad school to get a Master's in social work. This is how people in our BPD community explained these five classic BPD behaviors that are commonly mistaken for being "manipulative": 1. Thank you for all you honesty and compassion. I know that my new wife and family would appreciate it as well. The most ironic thing is: I went to school to be a counselor. Even in this letter, she puts me on a pedestal and subsequently knocks me off it. Mahari, a Canadian woman and Life Coach now 52 years old, who recovered from Borderline Personality Disorder 14 years ago writes an open letter to all who have been, as she was at the age of 19, diagnosed with BPD. The letter F. An envelope. I am the 30 year old sister with BPD. Thank you for the hope you have given us.and putting it in terms we can understand. Your email address will not be published. I was excited because all of my problems finally had an explanation, and just maybe I wasnt such a bad person. She's 30 years old. You believe you cant get close to anyone because you will love them so much, and they will inevitably hurt you in one way or another, and you will overreact and do or say something that ensures they decide they cant be around you. i haven't figured out what i think about BPD.. i've been diagnosed with it several times and as a result the system has treated me TERRIBLY. I pray that she is able to find a place where you are now. Today I turned 47 and I feel like I am 77. Click to enable/disable essential site cookies. If you do not want that we track your visit to our site you can disable tracking in your browser here: We also use different external services like Google Webfonts, Google Maps, and external Video providers. 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