So when you find yourself at the beginning, just give hope a chance to float up. You cant expect someone to clean up dog s*** and dog p*** everyday and live in a house that smells worse than a kennel! All I am asking for is to have one room of my own this isnt overrun by dog hair. I feel your pain. A lot of peple commenting on here have been outright rude to say people need therapy for loving their dogs too much or treating them like humans. The pigs are in the living room as there is nowhere else and I clean the cages daily. ! He wrote me a text saying that he wants a divorce. My bf has 2 goldendoodles and in my opinion, they are the most annoying dog breed of all because they are hyper, crazy energetic and tons of nervous energy). Why would that look cool? I do love my SO but I am finding myself dreading being at home and missing my old life with my dog free apartment. Anyone who knows labs knows that they have two coats and shed INCESSANTLY. Or I cant give the dog a bath anrd other things my husbands gonna want me to do. And a marriage. He was taught to stay off the furniture and we did not feed him from our plate, so he never begged for food. After the second year of marriage I began to realize that my wifes focus was more on her dogs than on me. It seems like the overwhelming majority of people who are adversely affected by dogs seem to like dogs but believes they should be treated like animals rather than four-legged humans. My mom use to say to me, Dont let that dog ruin your marriage! News Flash: its not the dog. If they get some exercise, good food and some attention when others ate here, they will be fine on their own for awhile. She is a pit bull, but very submissive. She destroys everything. He says Im the sick one being jealous of dog. I can completely relate. I asked her about it and she said she never wanted the dog in the first place, that she knew she would never be happy (I wish I would have known this) because I thought even though I knew she wasnt a fan of dogs that by getting one it would warm her heart, a cuddle play buddy. So heres my story. We dont live together but we spend a lot of time at each others houses. It takes a lot of time and it shows IMO how much I actually care for my girlfriend because I cant tell you how many men would just hit it and leAve because of an annoying pup. Its just a coffee table. I am a nursing student so money is very tight. The idea is to allow the dog to sleep in bed, but under your feet. Hi, I really need help, My boyfriend and I got a puppy a couple of months ago. But unfortunately I didnt know that and Im now invested in this relationship. Wow Jay youre problem definitely sounds like what I am currently dealing with! A disagreement about pets doesnt have to spell the end of your relationship, but it may require that each of you make some accommodations. It is something I dont believe in and it breaks my heart to even consider. I would never allow an animal to usurp me ever again. He sleep at his own house. My husband was mean to her I found out later as he apologized. Dogs are supposed to bring pleasure; these four-legged gods bring fights, stress, and anxiety. You dont need to do anything, she knows from the beginning your passion for your dog. I gently nudged it off, because there werent room for the two of us, and it attacked me. Thank you, however kenneling is not something my hubby and I support. B its not that bad, it comes right off clothes easily w a soft cloth. I treat both equally. The hair is floating everywhere and sticking to everything. I should have SAID no! I think when someone treats animals badly they have no problem treating people badly as well. Reasons why does your husband/boyfriend wants to get rid of the dog? No way. Something I think my partner can use wisely but chooses not to because he thinks him or the dog should t have to. the dogs can sleep there and feel like theyre still in bed with me. If the dog tends to pee or poop everywhere and shedding issues, its better to restrict the critical areas in your house like the dining room, living room, bedroom, etc. As time goes on I thought I may get used to it as I force myself to accept things. No idea what to do in this situation. Ive never seen so many dogs with behavior issues, anxiety and destructiveness and almost all of them started out with a single person! Fully house trained and bathed regular And I was ocd about cleaning so his trash talk was nonsense. the little dog weighed about two and a half pounds and was covered in ticks had a dislocated back leg and had been being hit and swung around by the legs punished for no reason being left without food or water. My boyfriend has 2 dogs. I was livid, and literally hurt, but didnt want my then girlfriends dog euthanized. I just want him to be safe as my dog wants his food. I could easily tell she was hurting, so I comforted her. So, there is no need to change. Another year passed and my girlfriend and I decided to move in together. I totally agree with you! Melissa, I really feel your pain. Except hes getting attacked he will defend himself. The anger towards him stems from the fact that I picked up the dog at the pound without consulting him. these are sensitive subjects to bring up but i cannot live unhappily. She did not approach the man even when he was waving a 45$ Steak. Then he started joking about how sometimes hell wake up with the bed covered in fur, but that he needs his Mesa cuddles and that it would diminish his happiness and quality of life if she were to no longer be allowed in the bedroom. I get so mad and my wife just says oh, it is ok, he is old. Before reading this blog, I thought I was going crazy thinking the way I did or maybe that is the way my partner treats me. I just cant grasp the thought process.. As far as the relationship I dont like to say it but maybe its best if you did separate, though it hurts to think that way. A child deserves to be more important to his mother than a dog. Hes drinking and now back to as he says dabbling in drugs. Dogs are animals! But, I highly recommend you consult a dog behaviorist prior to meeting a relationship advisor. What you said is most certainly not a fact. I dont understand why she even has him if she doesnt want to do anything with him. If you guys are having troubles over PETS, the relationship is never going to last, anyway. Its difficult for me to understand why anyone would stay in this type of environment. I'm a total cat person and I don't see the appeal of a dog that constantly wants attention. Hit the toilet and if you dont by accudent, clean it up. You cannot compare a dog to a child. You and your partner made a promise to love each other not to split for a freaking animal. He knows I cant stand and absolutely He of course used to let her sleep in his bed like a person and she stinks like nothing Ive ever smelled. He mentioned it to me a month ago but we had a huge argument and never spoke about it again until the reality took place today. 17. Im no longer going through it thank goodness and it was a lesson learned of what to look out for in the dating world. THEY ARE A ANIMAL, just like COWS, DEER, and SHEEP!!!! But Bailey hasnt ever chewed up any thing and me and my 3 kids havent had any problem with her in the home.. We all sleep with her love her play with her etc The arguing became rediclious over MY dog and she ended up outside!!!! If having an indoor cat or a dog that sleeps in your bed is important to you, youll need to ensure your partner shares these values or risk ending up in conflict. I need only to say No and she stops. she even comes into the car for whatever we do, everytime he picks me up for anything she will be sitting in the passenger side.. i ask him does she really need to go everywhere with us but he just gets in a mood with me. He has said I have to get rid of my dog. Everything is the dog. There are enough responses here that a website for dog widows/widowers seems viable: I dont think there is anything. If your significant other is so inconsiderate that they tolerate an out of control dog, so rude that no one can have fun when the dog is around, then that is a character flaw of that person. when the dog tried climbing on and continuously this weekend she told the dog off but she just keeps coming back. The dog acts out, becomes even more needy, which only breeds guilt in their owner, so they turn their focus away from their relationship to focus solely on the dog again and boom, the issues start! If you still cannot someone, its better to interview several people and give the dog to someone you totally believe and feel comfortable with. He far as takes her to the bathroom with him. Sometimes I got short breathed because of all the dog hair that is flying through the air and I cant sleep because of all the movements on the bed and the noises. If your little husky is dear to you, you need to make it clear with whoever you see that your pup is part of who you are, and eliminate non-animal people. Finally I was able to get a good night sleep without those dogs jumping on and off the bed, and dirty smell everywhere. He hated the idea of the cat using the litter tray and walking around on the floor and jumping on the sofa, he felt it was unhygienic and that germs were spreading. She stained the carpets so bad that Im embarrassed to have company over. I cried the entire time when I signed the dogs over. Even when I came home from grocery shopping, he would already try to steal items out of my grocer bags!! Also, on the rare occasion he stays at my place, he has to leave really early in the morning to go home and take the dog out (i live in SF and we both have apartments with no yard). has involved marriage, a dog can not provide what her husband does. Rather, he makes a long long list of excuses for her retarded manipulative behaviour. Another option is to invest a couple hundred in an amazing dog bed (the kind with a real mattress). :) Its too I didnt meet someone like you that has this common sense attitude when it come to their pets. It might be a little difficult for the dog at first to adjust, but that is what proper training is for. Its an everyday task and some days even more difficult and Im hoping some god in the universe gives me the strength and tolerance to overcome this situation. Good marriages (and relationships) dont just happen. He doesnt keep you awake, ignore your commands, scratch incessantly at every closed door, refuse to come when hes called or BITE you. They stink so bad. The only place is the cage when we leave the house. When my ex was abusing me hed try all sorts of tactics to get in my head and even attempted to kidnap my Siberian wolf. It feels so disgusting and frustrated when a dog poops or pee on a nice carpet on the floor inside the house. All this with the power of love. Shes actually part min pin and part Doxie. Doesnt take much effort. I need rest because I have to work a 12 hour shift the next day. I didnt have much issue with his dog prior to moving in either, but then once he moved in with me, the dog became super needy and dependent and took up ALL my bfs attention. Untrained dogs, partners hating dogs, jealousy and intolerance Toilet-training should be accomplished in a week or maybe 2 max, if you STICK with it. Learning stages for a puppy are very difficult and tiring on them, too. Weve kept him in a kennel before, but hes chewed on it and rammed into it with his head enough that its broken and he can break out. They cry & come & stare at me. And should i have to worry about our future childrens safety? I have a small dog that I love very much. The comment left by Jane I can relate to the most. She grabs chargers or cords. Possibly one month would be enough. I think that you are correct! Hes a good dog but senses that my husband doesnt like him so hes afraid of him. When she arrived she was on the couch. I love all animals but dont want any big dogs in my place and after dealing with bulldogs, of which I never gave much thought to before dating someone that had them, I want nothing to do with them! Weve even tried fixing it but he chews through everything we try to fix it with. Truly good luck to you. After all, when on walks the dogs sniff at everything and my wife cuddles her dogs and doesnt always wash her hands or face afterwards. I finally got her to agree to keep them out of our bedroom. Finger crossed for ya! I call her the furry wife and thats exactly what she has been. She made arrangements for her mother to take the dog when she came out to visit last week. I read about training and raw food and Chihuahuas themselves. The whole alpha thing has been disproved, so that is a moot point. If he continues to be a rude about the fur, you are incompatible. And I love animals!!! My dog was never a fan of his dog and I dont blame her. Yet my fiance has an issue with my Pitt drinking so much. Its about him and him not respecting you nor the relationship and putting the dogs wants ahead of you. I fear my the dog will be the death of us.. :( I heard all what you have been hearing from your partner.. it takes work and responsibility to have pets.. My cat sheds a small bit with excessive petting, but it is beyond manageable with regular vacuuming. 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